A marriage boot camp is a terminology that is being heard more in the recent times as a means of a solution for marriages on the rocks. A few years back, one used to hear of marriage counseling. So what is a marriage retreat and why is it more preferable now to marriage counseling in the context of a broken or an about to be broken marriage?
1. Marriage counseling sessions come with lots of time gap in between two meetings. These extended periods of indecision could turn out to be too strenuous for the couple in the troubled marriage. The tension could create an adverse effect on the relationship, reducing its chances of redemption. A marriage boot camp retreat could be of three to five days’ duration during which time the couple is thrown together for the entire length of the resort. It would give them chances to know more about each other and have more hope for resolution of their relationship issues.
2. Working things out in a relationship, each of the couples should be able to look at the problems from the other’s point of view also. Each one knowing his or her own as well as the other’s issues with the relationship will dilute the problem altogether. It would even encourage one to take the initiative to address and solve the other’s problem, which is what a relationship is supposed to be all about in the first place – supporting each other in their problems.
3. Marriage counseling sessions are more of one-on-one meetings and discussions or, at the most, talks between the concerned couple and the counselor. The couple gets the chance to air their thoughts with the instructor of course and also to receive guidance from the advisor in working things out with each other. However, in a retreat, the couple can opt for either a private setting or a group setting. Either way, they will be undergoing a variety of activities that improve their communication, understanding and relationship building skills.
In A Group
4. Counseling is never in a group setting. At a retreat in a group setting, the couple involved with several other couples who are also undergoing challenges in their relationships. Meeting with them and understanding their problems will give them a broader perspective of life and relationships as such, instead of focusing on their problems and building them and make them out to be way bigger than they are. They would be able to look at their problems objectively which would be the first positive step towards solving them.5. Counseling sessions guide them to understand each other and resolve issues in a way that is more theoretical than practical. At retreats, couples undergo various activities together which unconsciously set them on the right path of understanding each other and going ahead with their lives and dealing with problems collaboratively. The knowledge that there are others like them reduces the intensity of their problems. Activities also have a fun element to them when undertaken together.
Taking into account all of the factors above, one tends to feel a retreat is a preferable option to counseling, as the former more or less helps lighten the situation and encourages a couple to try and positively resolve their issues. Considering the difference in approach between the two, one could say a retreat is more of a picnic at the end of which the couple is more than likely to get their relationship back healthier and more full of life and hope than ever before.